Sunday, February 3, 2013

Cheap Kitty Litter!

I cannot believe it.  I hit up so many discounts today during our shopping trip.  But here's the best thing we got!
Kitty litter that's 100% usable - just in crappy boxes.

Kitty Litter.

I usually budget $40/month for cat food, kitty litter, and flea & tick medicine for two cats.  Kitty litter can be pretty expensive.  However, Travis was able to pick up 4 boxes of Arm & Hammer kitty litter for only....

$4.99!

SAY WHAT?!

Obviously, the boxes are all ripped to hell.  They've been taped together.  Because of that, it cannot be sold on shelves.  It just got destroyed in transit.  So Travis spoke up & bought them.  It's going to take a long time to get through all of these boxes of kitty litter!

So next time you are out shopping and you see anyone stocking the shelves or unloading the trucks, keep your eyes open for products that could be "unsellable" because of damage or defects.  If the product is still good, you can get a super nice deal just by speaking up and saying you'll buy it anyways!  Don't be shy!

Saturday, February 2, 2013

What's in My Purse?


So, I was going to write a blog post about our monthly budgeting system - but my Home Management binder broke.  I'm so sad about that.  I have to get a new one, and I've decided to upgrade it a little bit.  I'll get back on with our monthly budget after I put it back together.  Our monthly budget and weekly budget are done - I just can't bring myself to show you pictures of the mess.  Everything is literally... EVERYWHERE.  And quite honestly, I don't even want to look at it at the moment.

Instead, I've been cleaning and organizing my purse.  Last year, Travis bought me this awesome planner that became my Bible.  It went everywhere with me.  I loved it.  The only negative thing about it was that it was too big for my purse.  I always had to carry it separate.  I didn't want to part ways with it.  However, Travis told me that my Valentine's Day/Anniversary gift can be a new planner designed how I want it.  EEK!!!

After reading the Budget Planner on A Bowl Full of Lemons, I had to compare Filofax with Day-Timer.  I actually preferred Filofax because of the variety of sizes, and you can tailor your planner with a variety of different pages and fillers.  Plus, for $4, you can get the post-its and markers (which I am guessing I could refill on my own if I run out).

Here is my purse.


I love my purse because my dad bought it for me for Christmas.  He had paid attention to something I said that was just a fleeting thought.  During Thanksgiving, I made a little comment about my purse falling apart.  My dad caught that and went and picked out a purse for me!  I love my dad!  And I love the style he picked out.  My mom was with him, but she said she let him pick it out.  He wants to be more involved in my life and my sister's life.  He just feels like he doesn't understand "girl talk."  Well, dad, sometimes guys know exactly what we want!  My dad did a good job.  And now I cannot part with my purse.

The color of my purse is different.  It's like a brown... with black and gold on it.  And I love the texture of it.  So I tried to find a planner on Filofax that was on sale (60% off!!!) and matched as close as possible to my purse.  I also didn't want to spend TOO much on it.  I chose the Dakota Personal in Black.  I tailored it to add the Assorted Sticky Notes - Personal and since my choice did not include a Finance section, I added the Personal Finances Section.  I definitely have plans for this little planner.  I can't wait for it to arrive!  Stay tuned when I post about our weekly budgeting system and how I organize my planners to fit my life.

Back to my purse.

Can you guess what I have??
This is what I always keep in my purse.  They say you can learn a lot about a woman by what she keeps in her purse.  Let's see what we learn about me!

The endless pit.
Of course, we can start off with my wallet.  We don't have to look in there. ;)

Hi wallet!!
Next, I have my weekly/monthly planner.  This planner is strictly for me.  It keeps records of all of my projects at work, my appointments, my bills, my To-Do list at work, at the zoo, and at home.  It's my life.  I get scatterbrained sometimes, so I have to have it all detailed.  I also keep a Rolodex business card wallet.  That's all it has in it - business cards.  I usually keep that for networking and for work purposes.  Always trade business cards when you can!
These things help me not get lost in a busy life.

The little snowman notepad is for all of my silly notes to myself.  Usually, it's used for shopping so that I don't forget the little things.  Or if I have to quickly jot down a number, name, or address - it goes there.  I always go through my notes.  If it involves shopping, I put it in the "Shopping Envelop."  We write how much we budget on the front of the envelop.  Whenever I am out and about, I can stop and pick up any items we need.  It keeps it all organized and easy to find.

My notepad and shopping envelop.

I am obsessed with body spray and perfume.  Unfortunately, my husband is allergic to stronger perfumes, so I can't spray myself until I am outside.  I keep a perfume/body spray in the console of my car and I keep one in my purse.  Right now, I have 2 because the Japanese Cherry Blossom is almost empty.  My back up is Love Spell - which I got for Christmas!  I also keep chapsticks and lip gloss in my purse at all times.  I had to throw away my favorite chapstick because it was nasty.  I never use chapstick enough to use an entire tube thing of it.

I smell pretty... oh so pretty...

I always keep tissues with me - especially during the winter.  I hate runny noses!!  I also have my paycheck, since my employer does not offer direct deposit.  I always keep a cheap calculator (from Dollar Tree!) and pens.  And yes, that green pen IS in fact a pen with pictures and quotes from 'A Christmas Story'.
My pen says, "Fra-gee-lay, it must be Italian."
This always cracks me up.  It's like a pocket in my purse that says, "NERD and GHETTO REDNECK CHICK" all in one!

Nerd & Ghetto Redneck Chick pocket
I carry a pocket knife with me everywhere I go.  It's super helpful!  If I had to use it for self-defense, I highly doubt I would actually use it.  I keep it for more handy stuff that randomly occurs.  Everyone is always shocked that I have a pocket knife.

It used to have a faceplate on the other side, but it broke off.
It was red and said "Country Girl" on it.
Got this beaut in Gatlinburg, TN.
Every woman needs to have the secret pocket.  I carry my bathroom in this pocket.  No joke, tampons, feminine wipes (seriously, I'd rather use those suckers than go into a bathroom stall without toilet paper!), and LOTS of Midol.  Guys will stop rummaging through my purse to "see what I have" when they hit this pocket.  It's like magic.  You have cash?  Keep it in that pocket.  I highly doubt any dude will dig for it.

It's like Kryptonite for men!

Last but not least, the front pocket.

My front pocket is only used for headphones, a spare lighter, and my cell phones.  I have 2.  This blue dinosaur phone is mine.  My iPhone is my work phone - which doubles as my awesome camera - so it isn't in the picture.

The front pocket accessories.
iPhone not pictured.
And that's all folks.

So here's a comprehensive list of all the stuff I have in my purse every day:

  • Wallet
  • Personal Planner for me only
  • Business Card Wallet
  • Mini-Notepad
  • Shopping Envelop
  • Perfume/Body Spray
  • Chapstick & Lip Glosses
  • Tissues
  • Paycheck
  • Calculator
  • Pens
  • Pocket Knife
  • Feminine Products
  • Headphones
  • Spare Lighter
  • Cell Phones


I carry a lot of junk.  Haha!

ETA: I forgot to mention that in the first picture, you can see a stack of papers with a rubber band around it.  That's for work.  It's temporary.  I have to get labels laminated somewhere.  So I just ignored that.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

The Perfect House(s)

I don't think we have ever come across a house that we both agree is perfect.  Travis and I have been casually looking at houses to see what's available in our price range.  We could be homeowners in March.  Or, we can wait, boost our credit and gain more in savings and potentially qualifying for a little more if we wait until fall.  So we've been looking to get an idea of what we want to do.  It's become a nice little date night for us.  We get something super cheap to eat and drive around together.  We talk about what we like and don't like - and sometimes we'll act like we already own the house - just to see what it would feel like for a brief moment.  We talk about our future, and we dream together.

As we have been casually looking around, we found 2 houses that we just fell in love with.  Terrible timing!  We shouldn't have started looking!  I knew this would happen!

These houses have been on the market for a while.  I'm saddened by the thought that these houses might not be on the market anymore when we are ready to make an offer.  But at least we got to see them.

Here's our #1 pick:

No one buy it - PLEASE!!

Here's our #2 pick:

Now I feel heartbroken.  I'm not looking at any houses anymore.  I'm just going to end up sulking because we didn't get it.

When you were house-hunting, when did you start looking at houses on the market?  Did you miss out on a house that you really wanted?

**ETA:  So we found out today that we do not want House #2 because it is a Short Sale.**

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Always Keep Track of Everything - Update!

It's super important to keep track of everything.  Whenever you make a payment, it is always best to either write on the bill when you paid it, how you paid it, and if you spoke to anyone about your bill, the person's name.  It's also super important that anything you pay online, you get a copy of your payment, print it out, make sure it says how you paid it, and again: if you spoke to anyone, their name.  And it's always important to file everything - from your bills to your bank statements - and have it filed in a way that you can easily find things.

I have had collectors call me in the past and try to convince me that I did not pay a bill.  All I had to do was go into that file, find the bill, and I could tell them "I paid it on this day, with this check/credit card, and I spoke to Joe on this other date." They would fumble and say, "we'll note this on your file!"  If I didn't have that, they would probably try to persuade me into paying extra.

One collector in the past tried to tell me that I didn't pay a bill.  I did.  The debt was 100% paid off.  They kept calling, kept harassing me, and I kept telling them no.  For months, they bothered me.  AND, they continued to hit my credit.  Then, they sent me a letter saying that if I didn't pay a certain amount, they were taking me to court on December 4, 2011.  Needless to say, I paid them.  It is terrible to get summoned for a collection debt.  That will hit your credit super hard.  They were wrong.  In 2012, they were audited.  They had to fix my credit score from the damage they did to it, and they were required to give me back the extra amount I paid.
Which reminds me that I need to send a copy of the letter to Kari....

Always keep track of everything.  It is so easy now with online payments and automatic withdraws for companies and collectors to get sticky fingers.  Which is what I experienced today!

I have not been late on my student loan payments.  I have always paid on time.  Since we are trying to boost our credit, we never wanted to run the risk of being late on a payment.  I set up automatic withdraws for my monthly payments.  I thought that my bills would be paid on time.... Apparently not.

Last Thursday, I checked my student loans online.  I owed $283.  I noticed that there were no pending payments listed.  Worried, I tried to pay the bill anyways.  A notice came up saying that since I was signed up for automatic withdraws, any amount I paid would be ADDITIONAL.  Currently, I do not want to pay anything additional.  So I assumed that the payment would go through on it's due date (today).

I went back to the online bill pay for my student loans to find a lovely notice saying I was past due!
Say What??
HOW can someone on automatic payment withdraws be past due??  I tried to pay it, but again, I got a notice saying that since I am currently set up with automatic withdraws, it would be additional.  Now, how in the world am I supposed to pay this bill?  I decided what the heck, I'll just ask to be reimbursed the additional amount.  Then I was presented with this lovely message:
Oh, well that's convenient.

I checked my online bank account.  Sure enough, there was the student loan company's name in all capital letters.  They took out the payment from my bank account!  Not only did they take out a payment, they took out $357.06.  That's $73.20 more than my monthly payment.

Well look at that!

I will be updating this post after I speak to customer service.  This cannot hit my credit!  I am freaking out a little bit.  This is criminal.  They have to fix it - and they have to guarantee that it will not touch my credit!  Saying I'm mad is an understatement right now.  However, if they don't fix it, a friend of mine told me that his family (who own a law firm) will have no problem speaking on my behalf.  If it has to go further, his family will represent me pro bono (aka, free).  Hopefully it won't have to go to that extent, but just in case, it is nice to know I have that leverage.

*~*~*~*~*~* UPDATE *~*~*~*~*~*

So I called customer service this morning first thing.  I was so mad and confused.  The Customer Service Rep (CSR) did not make matters any better.  Travis had to take the phone away from me and talk to her.  What can I say, I was more than frustrated!

We'll go back a little ways.  Usually, when I think of "Due Date" for bills, I assume that is the day the payment is due.  I'm never a day late on payments.  Because Travis and I live paycheck to paycheck, we budget hardcore.  Each week, I have it planned to pay a little bit towards all of my bills - based on priority.  That way, my bills are paid BEFORE the due date.  It also helps us to live our lives on a week to week basis without fear that our bills won't be paid.  It's all planned out and we do our best to follow our plans.  On top of that, it's always best to pay the bills with the highest interest rate early because a greater percentage of the payment will pay towards the principle balance - not interest.  By the time the bill is due, majority of the payment will go towards interest.

On January 3rd, I paid $75 towards my student loan bill.  On Friday, January 4th, I called the company and spoke to a CSR about lowering my monthly payments.  It's not that we can't afford it, necessarily, but we'd rather use that money at this time to purchase a home.  That way, we can always pay more when we can or when we want to.  The CSR gave me a few options, and we worked out a plan.  He told me that my next bill will be $282 (and some odd cents - I always round up).  I asked him about my $75 - and he said it would be applied towards my bill of $282.

On January 15th, I did the dumb thing and signed up for automatic payments.  I should not have done that.  Once I signed up for automatic payments - that $75 became an "additional" amount.  I did not know this.  On January 24th, I checked my online account to see if the payment had gone through yet.  It didn't.  There were no pending payments.  However, it said my monthly payment was $282 (and some odd cents).  Because the loan company recently changed their website, I could not find a statement anywhere saying what amount was paid or not.  Because the CSR told me that my monthly payments would be $282, I assumed the amount listed was the total bill.  I figured the $75 would be applied, because that's what he said!

Sunday was the due date.  I checked my online loan account, and you all know what I found.  So this morning, bright and early, I called the company and the CSR got an earful.  She would not give me a straight answer.  I was so confused, that I just lost it.  It sounded like no one there knew what in the world I even owed!  Once Travis got on the phone, and I calmed down, things started to become clear between us.

Turns out, the previous CSR did not change my monthly payment plan and never made a note on the account.  So technically, I owed $357.06.  The balance that was showing up online was the amount after the $75 had been applied.  HOWEVER, because I signed up for automatic payment withdraws, those automatic payments take out the full amount.  So this company not only took out $357.06 - they also took out an additional $75.  Basically, we "lost" $150 this month.  I asked if, because of the confusion, they could reimburse $75 or apply it towards my next bill, and they said no.  There was nothing they could do.  We are just out that money.

We set up a new payment plan with this CSR.  I have her name, and I recorded our conversation.  I won't let that happen to me again.  Once she knew she was being recorded, she certainly changed her tune.  Now, we're back to what we were originally paying in December:  $303.  Whatever.  Now I have to update our budget again.

This has me super upset.  I could have used that $75 towards our House Fund.  Here's why:  Travis and I have been working with credit advisors and what not to boost our credit.  Our credit advisor suggested that since I paid off my credit card completely, I should put $100 on it and pay it down to $10-$20 to develop a consistent history of revolving credit.  I followed their advice and put $110 on my credit card.  I WAS going to use $75 for paying down my credit card - but it looks like we're going to have to pull $75 from our House Fund savings account to pay the credit card.  Thanks student loan company! **obviously sarcasm**

Saturday, January 26, 2013

Starstruck

I HAVE to brag.  I feel like such an idiot for not asking for a signature or picture.
Way to go Liz!  A big deal walks in the door and you talk to him, and you have this 365 Photo Project but, nah, we won't take a pic or anything to share.  BAH!

Next celebrity I meet, I'm getting a picture!

I work in a hotel.  I love it there.  You never know what in the world the next day is going to be like or who you are going to meet.  A local music.... I don't know what they are called.... they book concerts and make sure the musicians have a place to stay.  Well, majority of their country musicians stay at our hotel.  A lot of times, they are not your super iconic celebrities.

BUT, today, I said hello to Brantley Gilbert.  Ok, ok, you might be saying "who?"  He's growing in popularity in the country/class rock genre.  This is the dude:




It was so funny.  He walked up, was texting or something on his smart phone with all of his luggage, just checking out of his room.  I had to do a double look because I thought he looked familiar.  Hence, this is why I said hi to him - so I didn't seem super awkward or anything. ::rolls eyes::  The hotel manager, Lisa, had a message for him, so she chatted with him for a bit.  I could not figure out why he looked so stinkin' familiar.

Once he left, Lisa asked, "Is he some famous country singer?  He was with *name of client I cannot disclose*"  For some reason, the name sounded familiar but it didn't click this morning.

Gladys, one of my coworkers, replies, "I think so."

Lisa commented that he doesn't look like the typical country singer.  She and I both said he looked more a rocker dude.  Gladys agreed, "I don't know if he's country.  He has way too many piercings to be a country singer."  Gotta love Gladys!!! :P

I looked him up online.  Once I saw his most popular picture on the computer and the titles of his songs, I knew who he was!

I wish I had gotten a picture.  I wish I had gotten pictures of all the celebrities I've met:  Wenona Judd, Ron White, Meg Ryan, Howie from BSB, Angelo Pizzo.... *sigh*  I never think about getting an autograph or picture taken.  Who does that?!?  I cannot believe I spaced it.  I guess this pic will have to do.

WKLB Country 102.5

I have not forgotten about my 365 Photo/Video Project.  Tomorrow is my day off and I'll be uploading all of my pictures onto my computer and what not.  A lot of times, I'll take pictures throughout the day - and then I select the best pic from that day.  It's been a pretty stressful week.  Catch ya tomorrow!

Friday, January 25, 2013

A Little On The Personal Side

This might be a long one.  However, I need a way to put this in the right words.  I know that I don't know everything.  But I have always been a huge supporter of equal rights in this country.  For someone that doesn't know this, they obviously don't know me well.  It's something that fuels me.  It's a topic that I find incredibly sensitive.  Today I had to delete a few posts from a supposed "friend" because of something they said that could have hurt a lot of other friends and people I know.  I know people don't like "dirty deletes" - but when it is something that is full of sarcasm and bigotry that is going to hurt people - I find deleting these are appropriate.  I don't want that on my profile. AT. ALL.

Honestly, politics are ridiculous.  I lost my cool this past election because all topics that were brought up involved equal rights.  I could not comprehend how people could be so cruel and narrowminded.  I could not understand why people were fighting AGAINST equal rights.  I lost it.  This past year, I've been so sensitive to the topics of equal rights - that I have gladly, without double thinking, unfriended Facebook friends and stopped talking to those who disagree with me completely on the topic.  I have even stopped contact with cousins because we cannot see eye to eye - so much so that it interferes with our relationship.  People may think I handle it immaturely, but I don't.  Why would I want to have people in my life that I feel do not agree with my morals, who do not support my beliefs (whether or not they agree with them), and who purposely say or do things that could hurt those I care about just out of spite?  I can't handle it.  Because I can't handle it, I cut it out of my life completely.

I will never apologize for sticking up for Gay Rights.  I will never apologize for speaking up about women's rights in areas I feel it is neglected.  And I will never tolerate someone making fun of my beliefs or gay individuals.  End of story.  If you expect an apology for that, then you won't find it here.

Growing up, I've had to talk 2 friends out of suicide because they were gay.  I stuck up for my friends when kids at school would make fun of them.  I remember long, late night talks about their fears about the day they tell their parents.  One important influence in my life was a Buddhist and he is gay.  I will always, for the rest of my life, stick up for gay rights and freedom of religion because I owe it to that important person.  He was a teacher who taught me a lot more from life than any hateful bigot I've met.  He was there when I needed someone most in my adolescence.  I owe it to him to make sure that he has the same rights in this country that I do.  He opened my eyes to a life I didn't know existed.  The least I could do for him is stick up for a life he deserves to have.

I don't care if I'm a Christian Episcopalian.  If you are a Buddhist (or any other religion), why would I have any reason to have hatred or unkindness to offer you?  Why would I not stick up for someone's rights for freedom to love who they want and receive the same benefits in this country as I do?  Why would I not stick up for someone's rights for freedom of religion if I want to protect my rights to worship how I choose?

Mock me all you want.  I've heard it a million times.  "Put your cape away."  "Quit pretending to be a hero." "You won't end up a martyr, so why are you trying so hard?"  I grew up sticking up for people.  When I see people ganging up on someone, being mean just because they can, or practicing straight up bigotry - YES, I will stick up for someone.  You better believe that if you aren't around, I'll stick up for you too.  I won't just sit back and let everyone have at it.  I don't think I'm some kind of hero.  I don't pretend to care.  But if I see someone getting BULLIED - you better believe I'll speak up.  Why?

Because sometimes, the person being bullied cannot!

I have known 2 people who have taken their lives because they felt people treated them unfairly.  They felt like they couldn't speak up.  They felt like they didn't matter.  I'll be damned if one more person I know suffers that without knowing that at least I stood up for them - no matter how big or small it is.

I don't care what color you are.  I don't care where you grew up.  I don't care who your family are.  I don't care if you are straight, bi, gay, or trans.  I don't care if you are Atheist.  I don't care if you are a little more sensitive to people's comments.  Some of us don't naturally carry thick skin and a backbone.  I have witnessed sweet, quiet people looking for belonging get trampled on because that's all they want:   A sense of belonging.  If you want to fit in, you aren't going to have that thick skin and backbone until someone shows you what thick skin and backbones even are!  You aren't going to have any idea what it is like if everyone is beating you while you are down.

I will not apologize for sticking up for people.

I will not tolerate people saying hateful things without me having a say.  Guarantee, I will be the lone ranger in a hateful crowd.  I will not let it slide.  In my eyes, there's too much to lose if I do.

Most importantly, I will not apologize for sticking up for myself.  If you are nice to me, I am nice to you.  But if you want to call me and cuss me out - I'm not going to listen to it.  If you want to send me mean messages, I'm going to delete them.  And if you are going to attack me, I'll defend myself.  I will never apologize for that, either.

If you don't like it - then move along.


EDITED:  My former teacher, Marc, posted this tonight.  It was fitting for this post.  I'm quick on the defense and I get emotional.  It's something I need to work on.  It doesn't do me any justice to flip out.  Anyways, I wanted to share this with you all.


“When a simpleton abused him, Lord Buddha listened to him in silence, 
but when the man had finished, the Buddha asked him, ‘Son, if a man 
declined to accept a present offered to him, to whom would it belong?’ 
The man answered ‘To him who offered it.’ ‘My son’, Buddha said, ‘I 
decline to accept your abuse. Keep it for yourself.’”


Thursday, January 24, 2013

The Liebster Award!

::sniff sniff:: It's so beautiful!


I'm super excited to announce that I've received my first blog award!  YAY!  Special thanks to Ryanne for the nomination!  Definitely check out her blog at A Method in the Madness.  Hop on over to her blog and say hi!
ETA:  A big shout out also goes to Jamey over at A Fraction of the Whole for nominating me as well.  Her blog is super cute - so check it out, too!  And show Amanda some love over at A Whole Lotta Somethin'!  Her blog is pure delciousness!!

So what is the Liebster Award?
The Liebster Award nomination goes to those bloggers who have a following of less than 200 to promote other bloggers to comment and share - even get to know each other!  I think this is great, because it gives you the potential to gather a larger following!  If you get nominated, you cannot nominate the person who nominated you (No tagbacks!).

The point of the Liebster Award is to answer questions, tell 11 secrets about yourself, and nominate 11 other bloggers who fit the criteria.  Here it goes!

11 Things About Me

  1. I absolutely hate spaghetti.  I have no idea why.
  2. I own land by my great-grandparents old homestead in Kentucky.  It sits high up on a mountain.  Unfortunately, the land isn't really anything I could build a house on or do anything with.  My uncle rents it for his horse pasture.
  3. My favorite color is orange, second favorite is teal.  Travis's favorite color is Teal, and his second favorite is orange.
  4. I am a Scorpio to a T.  My zodiac sign fits me perfectly.
  5. I am so sorry to say this, but I don't like musicals.  ::runs and hides::
  6. I always had this dream to write a book - a fiction fairytale-like book.  But, let's be honest, I'm way to lazy to attempt it.
  7. I can't stand the sound of my voice.  It's too girly and makes me sound naive.  I wish I had an "adult voice."
  8. I am most self conscious about my big ears.  I'm like Dumbo.  These suckers can make me fly.
  9. I play Devil's Advocate in most political debates.  1.) I find it funny that some people get way too bent out of shape about it.  2.) It's no one's business who I actually vote for.  3.) It really helps strengthen my points of view and my morals on certain issues from trying to think about it from a completely different perspective.
  10. I was a ballroom dance teacher.  I quickly learned that dancing is better as my hobby than a career.
  11. I absolutely, 100% hate winter/snow with a fiery, burning passion.  I cannot stand to be THAT cold. And I hate having to drive and walk in it, especially when I have to clear off my car of all the snow and ice.
11 Questions

1. Why did you decide to start a blog?
     A:  This blog is dedicated to the journey Travis and I embark as a couple.  We're building our careers from the start.  We lost so much.  We've endured enough as is.  After losing so much from medical debt, we've persevered.  We're rebuilding our lives together.  That's the point of this blog - to document the journey.  It gives us hope that things will work out.

2. How did you know that your spouse was THE ONE?
    A:  Travis and I just clicked.  It was the way he laughed.  It was the jokes he made.  He had an unbelievably open heart.  It was the way he smiled and looked at me.  It was the way I felt in his arms.  He was the only one that actually got me.  He understood me.  He is such a loving person, inside and out.  He shines and lights up a room.  I don't think I ever had someone that meshed with me so well.  I love him.  He's my rock when I need it.  He's amazing.  I love him with all I have.

3. Name the 3 most important people in your life and why they are so important.
   A:  I'm having a hard time selecting 3 - so I'm going to choose 4.  Number 1 is Travis.  Travis and I have walked together, side-by-side, through the good times and the bad.  We work as a team.  It took us a while to get to that point - and it was pure dedication on both parts.  Travis has saved my life and I have saved his.  We've never left each others' side.  Number 2 is my mother.  My mother has always provided me with the best advice in so many different ways.  She's put me in my place when I need it most, and she's given me utmost love and affection when I needed it most.  She always raised me with the concept of "I'm not here to tell you what you want to hear.  I'm here to tell you what you need to hear because I love you and I care."  I don't know where I would be without her guidance and humor.  Number 3 is my father.  He has always made time in his life for me.  He always dove head first into all of my silly hobbies and activities that I pursued throughout my life.  He has always been proud of me - and he tells me regularly.  My dad will put his life aside for me.  He would give his life for me.  I know this, and I feel truly blessed to have such a strong willed, big hearted, hard working man take such pride in me.  I don't know what I would do without my daddy.  Number 4 is my sister Stephanie.  She has always been my best friend.  We would hang out together on a regular basis.  We stayed up late - just like it was a slumber party with your BFF.  We told stories, we told secrets - and today, we share that same bond.  Whenever I need to talk or escape from daily life, my sister is always there.  I couldn't walk this life without my big sister being around.  When we are old and grey, we'll be sitting on the front porch, watching the kids and grandkids play - as our husbands do what old guys do - and we'll laugh, yell at the kids, and enjoy the sunshine with our Pepsi cold in a glass.  We'll live our lives together - and the husbands are totally fine with that.

4.  How do your personal beliefs (social/religious/philosophical) differ from your upbringing now that you are an adult?  How have they stayed the same?
   A:  I won't lie and say I've always been the same.  I've grown.  I've matured.  When I was younger, I thought life was much simpler.  Even in college, I was very naive.  But I have noticed that life isn't supposed to be taken seriously.  While it is more complicated as an adult - there are questions I still cannot find answers to - it isn't worth the stress.  Life is meant to be lived without a chip on the shoulder.  Don't carry the baggage.  People come and people go - and that's ok.  Life goes on, and new memories are made - new people are met.  But most importantly, I've developed a strong belief that even when I am alone - I'm not actually alone in this world.  I have God and my Guardian Angels always watching out for me.  I'm not as fearful as I once was.  My personal beliefs that have stayed the same - it's best to keep life a mystery and not have all the answers.

5.  If you had a million dollars, how would you spend it?
   A:  I'd buy a house.  I'd pay off my student loan debt.  I'd buy Travis and myself a new car - since our cars are wearing down.  I'd pay off my sister's debt.  I'd pay off my parents' debt.  I'd give my parents back the money they spent on me.  I'd have babies and start college funds.  Whatever is left will go to the American Cancer Society in memory of all my loved ones that have been lost due to cancer.

6.  Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
   A:  Owning a home, having children, still married to Travis, and working a stable job that provides a decent living.  And having really really old kitty cats named Coheed & Smokey.

7.  What is one way you are seeking to improve yourself in one year?
   A:  Building my career.  It's my main focus.  

8.  What is the best book you have ever read?
   A:  UGH - making me choose only one?!?!  The first one to pop into my head was "Never Let Me Go" by Kazuo Ishiguro.  I cried like a baby for hours when I finished it.  I couldn't put the book down. Ask Travis.  I was obsessed - and when the book was done - he left me alone to grieve. lol

9.  What song describes your mood today?
   A:  Even though it was a Thursday... "Manic Monday" seems to be the best fit.  It was stressful.

10.  Do you have any pets?
   A:  TWO adorably handsome kitty cats named Coheed & Smokey. :D

11.  Do you have a Bucket List?
   A:  Only on Pinterest.  I don't think I really have a real bucket list.  

11 Questions for You
  1. What is your favorite color and why?
  2. So, you have a blog.  Why?
  3. What is your goal for this year?
  4. What is the best song to describe your mood today?
  5. Who are the 3 most important people in your life and why?
  6. How did you meet your significant other? (if single, what do you look for in a significant other?)
  7. If there was a $100 bill laying on the ground, would you take it?  If so, what would you buy with it?  If not, why?
  8. Compare yourself to your 15 year old self.  What would you tell him/her?
  9. What is your worst vice?
  10. Take your age and double it.  Where do you see yourself at that age?
  11. What is the best life advice you can give your followers?
And the nomination goes to:
The top 11 blogs I have chosen are as follows (in no specific order):